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7wks post op & allotment update

Published May 26, 2014 by Kim

Well i’m so glad i had sown as many seedlings as i did before i went into hospital because the allotment is nearly full, the garden vegetable bed is full and so are the greenhouses.
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I’ve got a few money makers tomato plants and a pumpkin plant to take to the allotment which will fill in the last space then it will be serious weeding 🙂

We had a slight disappointment with the allotment, i have 2 old draws that i was going to use a cold frames but then i’d got given another greenhouse i thought i’d just manage with them.. so instead i decided to plant some colour .. some poached egg flowers. The seeds were slowly popping up only to be stood on and squashed by someone fixing their garden fence 😦 Thankfully it was only the one bed so turning a negative into a positive i’ve decided to top the compost up and sow some carrots and spring onions.

But i must give all the credit to my dear hubbs who has taken my supervising him with great valour. On top of helping me with the allotment he’s made a start on laying a patio in the back garden as we’ve decided to totally revamp and re.organise the whole back garden which will give us and the dogs more space but also still leave me an area to grow a few vegetables.

Last august when we took on the allotment we decided back then that we will spend as little as possible which means recycling everything we can think of, here’s a few things we’ve re.used.

make great lettuce planters

make great lettuce planters

pop bottles again make great supports for shelving to keep the cats off the veg bed, pop bottles also make green mini greenhouses for new seedlings

pop bottles again make great supports for shelving to keep the cats off the veg bed, pop bottles also make green mini greenhouses for new seedlings

As a plot marker i have 2 old car tyres that i planted an azalea shrub in, some of the netting over my cabbage and sprouts covers the old framework for a plastic green house and our latest project uses 2 old pallets and yes more pop bottles… our strawberry tower 🙂
strawberry tower

Just a short mention about my recovery… i’m doing well and have reduced the painkillers but my body is still telling me at the end of the day that i’ve done too much. It’s a big operation and i really didn’t understand the full impact before hand but between the growing vegetables, my dogs and my photograph i’m just about remaining sane.

16 days post op……

Published April 24, 2014 by Kim

Feeling really good, minimal pain 🙂 but bored outta my brain !!!!!

Not quiet up to going to the allotment today but did get out into the garden where we are keeping 2 vegetable beds. Just love these no dig beds, turned over the surface to clear any cat poo ”Yuck” then got on with sowing some seeds. We’ve sown 2 rows of carrots, 2 rows of spring onions, 1 row of radish and a row of lettuce. Also planted out some round lettuce seedlings but placed them under bottle top cloches.

Sadly the slugs and snails have had a real banquet on my pea’s and broad beans so i removed the dead and will be replacing them.

1st home-grown leek

Eventually went for it a picked my first home grown leek, which even if i say so myself looks pretty good. Leeks are something we don’t actually eat that often if at all so i don’t think i’ll grow them again due to the amount of time the spend growing.

vegetable bed 1

Still signed off for another 4wks then have to go for check up with gp.

Fingers crossed we are able to get to the allotment in the next week or two, although i’ll only be supervising we do have some seedlings that really could do with being planted out.

squash & courgette

bye for now 🙂 sure i’ll be back soon

Seedlings update

Published April 12, 2014 by Kim

Well i’ve managed to get quite a head start and between my 3 little greenhouses and kitchen window sill everything is doing really well.

The first weekend of April we spent some time at the allotment finished digging the beds, moved 2 fruit bushes over a little then finally got the potatoes in.

At home in the vegetable garden we’ve worked on emptying one of the beds that is in bad need of repair. I took a risk and have also planted out some peas and broad beans.
Broad beans
But now i’m laid up in bed due to an operation on the 8th April, i’ve left the care of my seedlings to hubbs. As i couldn’t get down the greenhouse hubbs took photos of how everything is doing 🙂 and so far its all looking ok. He’s managed to pot on some beetroot i had forgotten about and got very leggy, so hopefully we’ll finally get beetroot.

Another few days and i hope to be able to walk around the house and garden which obviously i’m gagging to do as the weather is lovely sunny and warm… then i’ll be taking on a supervisory role in the garden and get these veggies going.

Happy new year to all my followers ….

Published January 12, 2014 by Kim

Its been ages since i blogged here … but i hope to put that right. I’m not going to make resolutions to do certain things .. i hope to make new routines and achievable goals.

August 2013 after being on the waiting list for yrs we finally managed to get an allotment on a site just 2 minutes walk away from home. So this year we intend to keep just 2 raised beds in the garden vegetable plot and grow the majority of our vegetables down and the allotment. I hope to blog on our progress throughout the coming growing season.
Plot 1a
garden vegetable plot

I do hope to try to do the usual… get fit & loose weight but by concentrating on other things i hope they will just happen.

Later in the year i hope to go to university to study Back to Nursing course which will enable me to practise as a trained nurse again. Until then i intend on improving my maths currently enrolled in a course at college and attending all the study days possible that work arrange.

Also the usual subjects will probably come up are adventures of my dogs … any photo shoots i get inspired to do.

So again happy new year to you all … lets make 2014 a memorable one xx

Mixed emotions …

Published January 1, 2014 by Kim

On the last day of 2013 for some reason I was really aware of the emotions I was feeling from the minute I got up in the morning I felt each emotion in order during the day
Fed up
and finally comatosed

what a whirl wind of feelings …

Been awhile …. life has just been getting in the way

Published November 3, 2013 by Kim

Where do i start … ok in brief

Allotment and vegetable garden are going well just need a few days off work to coincide with some dry weather so i can tidy both and put them to bed for the winter.  On a plus i managed to get £45 worth of seeds with 2015 sell by dates for just £7.50 what a bargain 🙂  The  weeds have been reduced by regular weeding but my biggest problem seems to be nasturtiums coming up every where.

still a bit of clearing to do

still a bit of clearing to do

The vegetable garden still needs so much sorting, decided to reduce back down from 3 raised beds down to 2 and in the place of the 3rd a small patio area where i’ll have a little seating area and the washing line can sit.

Work is going really well, i’ve applied to do the Back to Practice Nursing course, this will enable me to re.register and practice and nurse.  The home manager has been really good and says the company will support me in any way i need.


As a family we had a very traumatic time recently involving my eldest son, he has been left home a few months now and got very low after his long distance relationship hit some bad times and came to an end.  This affected  him badly, so much so he took an overdose,  thankfully he woke up the next morning and attended a few appointments he had aswell as catching up with me.  As the day went on his condition got worse so i took him into hospital where they did tests and gave him the antidote for what he’d taken.  During this time it also came out that my son has been battling with his gender for many years and feels like he’s a girl in a boy’s body.  After years of research he has decided to start his transition to become a transgender.

I instantly went into shock and over the last few weeks researching, chatting to others and my son i can accept his decision to become a female and will be as supportive as i possible can.   From what we’ve read from the research its a very slow and long process of which our first port of call was our GP.  Our GP has sadly never had to help a patient in this way before so we all went of to some yet more research into how we get the transition started.

The first brick wall that was hit was the clinic…… to get to be seen by a specialist you need to be referred by your local mental health team, we thought great they already know my son due to the counselling he’s been having after the overdose but as yet they have been unhappy to talk about anything other than his depression and anxiety.  Looks like we might have to get GP to do another referral to them, but would be nice if he can do a referral straight to the clinic… our next appointment will be next week  will know more then.

As for my son who after this blog will be referred to as my daughter Maya has spent a lot of time as his female self this past week and become more confident and i’d like to think a little happier.

As a mum of a mtf transgender i will be writing about our ups and downs in a separate blog, please ask for the link if you are interested in following or have any help or advice that might help in any way.

Thank you



On a personal note ….

Published August 30, 2013 by Kim

Well how things are changing in the last few months i’ve gone from being an ”at home mum” to working full-time night shifts then very recently transferred to-day shifts and even looking into a return to nursing course which will enable me to practise as a registered nurse again.

How do i feel about all this….. loving the job the care home is of very high standard and we are all developing a great friendship between us staff and with the residents.  Physically i’m finding things a little hard going at times and get very tired aswell as the aches and pains of age i suppose.  Mentally i’ve become so much more confident and can see a very clear future, not even considered reducing or stopping my antidepressants as i’m enjoying everything at the moment and don’t really want it spoilt.

Even though i’m working full-time its done in 3 shifts so i get some nice time off, which has enabled us to take on another ambition of ours and that’s having an allotment, we love it and so far with this gorgeous weather managing to spend every spare minute there.  Its so peaceful which is very surprising as it hidden on a small site in the middle of a housing estate.

Sadly not everything is peachy … my eldest son has decided he really wants his own place and sort of put himself into the care system, it makes me sad that he feels like this but if it’s what he wants then i can only support him where and when i can.  I think back now and i suppose i’ve been very lucky up until now not to have not needed much outside help.  After leaving an abusive controlling ex (sons dad) then going into another relationship with step children we’ve got away quite lightly.

I do feel everything is good and will work out for the best for all of us, change can be difficult but soon becomes the norm 🙂

Just going to end this post here as i’m eager to do a separate post on updating my allotment 🙂


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