Being a mum · Gardening · life changes · Vegetable plot

Been awhile …. life has just been getting in the way

Where do i start … ok in brief

Allotment and vegetable garden are going well just need a few days off work to coincide with some dry weather so i can tidy both and put them to bed for the winter.  On a plus i managed to get £45 worth of seeds with 2015 sell by dates for just £7.50 what a bargain 🙂  The  weeds have been reduced by regular weeding but my biggest problem seems to be nasturtiums coming up every where.

still a bit of clearing to do
still a bit of clearing to do

The vegetable garden still needs so much sorting, decided to reduce back down from 3 raised beds down to 2 and in the place of the 3rd a small patio area where i’ll have a little seating area and the washing line can sit.

Work is going really well, i’ve applied to do the Back to Practice Nursing course, this will enable me to re.register and practice and nurse.  The home manager has been really good and says the company will support me in any way i need.


As a family we had a very traumatic time recently involving my eldest son, he has been left home a few months now and got very low after his long distance relationship hit some bad times and came to an end.  This affected  him badly, so much so he took an overdose,  thankfully he woke up the next morning and attended a few appointments he had aswell as catching up with me.  As the day went on his condition got worse so i took him into hospital where they did tests and gave him the antidote for what he’d taken.  During this time it also came out that my son has been battling with his gender for many years and feels like he’s a girl in a boy’s body.  After years of research he has decided to start his transition to become a transgender.

I instantly went into shock and over the last few weeks researching, chatting to others and my son i can accept his decision to become a female and will be as supportive as i possible can.   From what we’ve read from the research its a very slow and long process of which our first port of call was our GP.  Our GP has sadly never had to help a patient in this way before so we all went of to some yet more research into how we get the transition started.

The first brick wall that was hit was the clinic…… to get to be seen by a specialist you need to be referred by your local mental health team, we thought great they already know my son due to the counselling he’s been having after the overdose but as yet they have been unhappy to talk about anything other than his depression and anxiety.  Looks like we might have to get GP to do another referral to them, but would be nice if he can do a referral straight to the clinic… our next appointment will be next week  will know more then.

As for my son who after this blog will be referred to as my daughter Maya has spent a lot of time as his female self this past week and become more confident and i’d like to think a little happier.

As a mum of a mtf transgender i will be writing about our ups and downs in a separate blog, please ask for the link if you are interested in following or have any help or advice that might help in any way.

Thank you