Where do i start … ok in brief
Allotment and vegetable garden are going well just need a few days off work to coincide with some dry weather so i can tidy both and put them to bed for the winter. On a plus i managed to get £45 worth of seeds with 2015 sell by dates for just £7.50 what a bargain :-) The weeds have been reduced by regular weeding but my biggest problem seems to be nasturtiums coming up every where.
The vegetable garden still needs so much sorting, decided to reduce back down from 3 raised beds down to 2 and in the place of the 3rd a small patio area where i’ll have a little seating area and the washing line can sit.
Work is going really well, i’ve applied to do the Back to Practice Nursing course, this will enable me to re.register and practice and nurse. The home manager has been really good and says the company will support me in any way i need.
As a family we had a very traumatic time recently involving my eldest son, he has been left home a few months now and got very low after his long distance relationship hit some bad times and came to an end. This affected him badly, so much so he took an overdose, thankfully he woke up the next morning and attended a few appointments he had aswell as catching up with me. As the day went on his condition got worse so i took him into hospital where they did tests and gave him the antidote for what he’d taken. During this time it also came out that my son has been battling with his gender for many years and feels like he’s a girl in a boy’s body. After years of research he has decided to start his transition to become a transgender.
I instantly went into shock and over the last few weeks researching, chatting to others and my son i can accept his decision to become a female and will be as supportive as i possible can. From what we’ve read from the research its a very slow and long process of which our first port of call was our GP. Our GP has sadly never had to help a patient in this way before so we all went of to some yet more research into how we get the transition started.
The first brick wall that was hit was the clinic…… to get to be seen by a specialist you need to be referred by your local mental health team, we thought great they already know my son due to the counselling he’s been having after the overdose but as yet they have been unhappy to talk about anything other than his depression and anxiety. Looks like we might have to get GP to do another referral to them, but would be nice if he can do a referral straight to the clinic… our next appointment will be next week will know more then.
As for my son who after this blog will be referred to as my daughter Maya has spent a lot of time as his female self this past week and become more confident and i’d like to think a little happier.
As a mum of a mtf transgender i will be writing about our ups and downs in a separate blog, please ask for the link if you are interested in following or have any help or advice that might help in any way.
Haven’t we been lucky with the weather for the last 7weeks there have been very few days that its rained too much to keep us home. So every spare minute we’ve had we run off to the allotment
Being the typical impatient women i am i was keen to get something in the ground other than a spade and took a risk. I sowed some carrots, spring onions, peas, courgettes and turnips and look what i harvested yesterday.
no bad and there’s another courgette growing well. Only a few of the spring onions germinated, slightly more carrots, turnips are fighting for survival from slugs and i hope to harvest enough peas on sunday for lunch.
We’ve managed to get hold of a small shed and with some TLC it will shelter us from them surprise showers.
The plot has been split up into 5 edged beds although the 5th has the shed on half of it and we plan to do a small seating area on the other half. We are slowly digging and finely weeding all the beds, i think we’re on about our 3rd time for 2 of the beds so weeds aren’t coming back quite so quickly, now thinking about covering the soil with cardboard.
All the paths have been wood chipped to help reduce having to weed and cut the grass on them. We’ve managed to get hold of 2 quite big draws which we plan to make into cold frames. I think rather than put my strawberries into one of the beds i’ll do something with pallets (yet to decide on plan)
All in all its going well roll on next season.
We’ll continue to grow vegetables in the garden but reduce the raised beds back to just 2 it will be the smaller things like carrots, peas and spring onions and i hope to get more green house space for the seedlings
All is good
Well how things are changing in the last few months i’ve gone from being an ”at home mum” to working full-time night shifts then very recently transferred to-day shifts and even looking into a return to nursing course which will enable me to practise as a registered nurse again.
How do i feel about all this….. loving the job the care home is of very high standard and we are all developing a great friendship between us staff and with the residents. Physically i’m finding things a little hard going at times and get very tired aswell as the aches and pains of age i suppose. Mentally i’ve become so much more confident and can see a very clear future, not even considered reducing or stopping my antidepressants as i’m enjoying everything at the moment and don’t really want it spoilt.
Even though i’m working full-time its done in 3 shifts so i get some nice time off, which has enabled us to take on another ambition of ours and that’s having an allotment, we love it and so far with this gorgeous weather managing to spend every spare minute there. Its so peaceful which is very surprising as it hidden on a small site in the middle of a housing estate.
Sadly not everything is peachy … my eldest son has decided he really wants his own place and sort of put himself into the care system, it makes me sad that he feels like this but if it’s what he wants then i can only support him where and when i can. I think back now and i suppose i’ve been very lucky up until now not to have not needed much outside help. After leaving an abusive controlling ex (sons dad) then going into another relationship with step children we’ve got away quite lightly.
I do feel everything is good and will work out for the best for all of us, change can be difficult but soon becomes the norm
Just going to end this post here as i’m eager to do a separate post on updating my allotment
About 5yrs ago i applied to the local council and a couple of the local parish councils for an allotment, in the mean time we’ve enjoyed growing a variety of vegetables in our garden. Now proudly have 3 raised beds all fully packed with vegetables.
10days ago i got a call from the Allotments officer at the council asking if we’d like to take a look at a plot on a small site just 10mins walk from the house. Well the following day a meeting with the site manager was arranged and we got to see the plot.
First impressions were wow its huge and oh no what a lot of weeds.
There are approximately 10 plots on the site with 3 available. Theres a communal shed we can use but the plot we chose has so much more room than we expected there would be room for our own shed and composting area.
That night my head was buzzing … omg we’re getting so late in the season …. what can we get planted asap…. i did eventually fall off to sleep in the early hours with the full version of how i’d like the plot to look in my mind.
The following day we went to pay the money and collect a key, even though the weather was burning we did spend an hour having a go at clearing but the heat was too much so left to return home and cool down, but both being quiet impatient people we returned after tea when the temperature had dropped to clear even more.
By visit 3 we’d been able to dig and fine weed one of the easier beds and even got to sow some carrots, spring onions and turnips. On the 4th visit we planted some courgette seeds and some peas, not sure what we’ll get but felt the need to put something in the ground.
Think once the bazaar hot weather passes we’ll spend more time clearing the beds, each time one is completed we’ll cover with cardboard to be covered later with compost.
We also need to work on clearing and wood chipping the paths between the beds, arrange a seating area of course and the biggest thing planning what to put where next year.
We still plan to grow vegetables in the back garden but will be reducing back down to just 2 raised beds and also branch out a bit more in the flower area.
I’ve really enjoyed growing sun flowers, also just pulled some garlic i planted last october .. very pleased with that. May have to invest in a green house which will be put in the garden to be home for so many more seedlings that i’ll need
Apart from the sweetcorn everything i have planted has come up really well, radish seems to have gone crazy, courgettes are looking fuller every day.
Sunflowers appear to grow a foot a day and are now peeping over the adjoining fence. We emptied one of the potato sack to a very poor crop but the sack was very dry :-/ hoping by watering more often we get better results from the other 3 sacks.
We’ve a mass of peas which i though were mange tout and have started pulling the bigger looking carrots, first batch was enough to feed 4 adults so very pleased with that.
I still have my mini green house up as its home to a few tomatoes and some chilli plants which i’m very excited with as i have a total of 3 little chillies growing. The first few flowers on the chilli plant just withered and fell off so after a bit of research it was suggested they need to be pollinated, so the next few i brushed with a very small paint brush and they then went on to produce chillies
But this week has been taken over by the gorgeous scent of my sweet peas
They were very slow to start but now looking absolutely gorgeous. Later this evening i will be cutting a lot of the flowers to bring in doors which should encourage more flowers.
Even as early as this in the growing season i think i’ve done what i set out to do and that was produce more vegetables to a better quality than previous years. The tomatoes are a mass of flowers, we actually been able to have a bowl of strawberries and cream. My little gem lettuce have filled out and will be eated very soon along with spring onions and radish
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Proper shift in more than 15yrs.
After a few training days i became very worried that i’d made the wrong decision in going back to work more so nursing.
But after completing my first 12hr night shift this confirmed i should have come back to nursing many years ago and i don’t think being a carer will be enough for too long. In time and hopefully with support from my new employer i hope to complete a back to nursing course which will enable me to re.register and use the Registered General Nursing course that i completed pre.children.
Being a very new venture we were very lucky to only have 4 residents 1 of which was self caring this enabled us to get to know each of them a little better than if there was a full unit.
Thankfully i never have a problem sleeping anytime of day so a lie in the morning before shift and a sleep in the day after was easy.
I can already feel my confidence growing and enthusiasm running up a close 2nd. I’ve found myself making more of my free time and fully intend to do a lot more once i’ve been paid.
A headache that i have found is that since all the benefit reforms there is very little help adjusting from weekly benefits to monthly pay. Aaawwww well we’ll all have to learn to like baked beans
My next and 2nd shift is tomorrow night so today with hubbs, we took the ‘girls’ for a lovely walk through the woods and fields of Crickley Hill. The sun was warm and view was gorgeously clear. Whilst going through the wooded area we spotted these fungi which i could have photographed for ages but the ‘girls’ get bored waiting.
So heres to a very fun and full filling summer